Recently, the internet has come together to support a woman after she offered a pointed, “I told you so,” to her sister following her sister’s husband leaving due to her controlling behavior.
In a widely-shared post on Reddit’s “Am I The A*****?” forum, user West-Dragonfly-7526 detailed the situation involving her 27-year-old sister, Lisa. Lisa had developed a fixation on keeping a strict gray, white, and brown decor in her home, even discarding anything that didn’t fit her rigid aesthetic, including toys meant for her 2-year-old daughter, Maya.
“I warned my sister countless times to ease up before she lost Mark, but she dismissed my concerns, insisting she knew him better than I did,” the 21-year-old poster shared.
The breaking point occurred when Mark’s elderly mother gifted the couple hand-knitted colorful sweaters. Displeased with their vibrant hues, Lisa discreetly tossed the sweaters, which led to Mark discovering the act and ultimately deciding to file for divorce.
The Reddit post received over 14,000 upvotes, recounting how Lisa later called their parents to discuss the divorce. The original poster couldn’t help but remark, “I told you so,” sparking a negative reaction from their parents who felt she should have shown more compassion.
Currently, Lisa is living with their parents and is unwilling to confront her issues or seek help, according to the OP.
For those curious, Lisa won’t be getting the sweaters back. She had disposed of them in a dumpster and by the time she returned, they were already gone. Plus, Mark’s mother, who has arthritis, took over a year to knit them and likely cannot create replacements.
The OP mentioned that they would keep the community updated on any changes.
Amid this family drama, Lisa sought guidance from online users, and a marriage counselor provided some insight.
Expert Opinions
Counselor Whetstone highlighted Lisa’s choices, emphasizing her wastefulness and insensitivity towards others. She identified Lisa’s action of discarding her husband’s gifts as a major breach of boundaries.
Whetstone also critiqued the OP for their lack of empathy and unsolicited advice, suggesting that such judgments exacerbated family tensions.
“This family lacks boundaries and clarity in their roles,” she commented.
Reddit Community Reactions
The Reddit community predominantly sided with the OP on the issue, with many expressing frustration over Lisa’s behavior.
“Lisa doesn’t seem to understand that others have feelings too—not just props for her decor,” remarked one user.
Another user, a fellow crafting enthusiast, shared their dismay: “As a knitter, it breaks my heart to think someone would throw away a lovingly made gift like that!”
One final user urged, “Your sister needs significant therapy. You were right to call her out. She can either apologize to her husband and work through her issues or risk losing more relationships.”