While there are many resources available for those who have been betrayed by infidelity, there is less information on how to prevent cheating in the first place. According to Mayone, a therapist with years of experience in helping couples recover from infidelity and individuals struggling with the temptation to cheat, acknowledging these feelings can serve as a catalyst for growth and communication within relationships.
Dealing with the Urge to Cheat
Mayone suggests that by acknowledging and understanding the urge to cheat, individuals can emerge stronger from the experience. Here are some vital steps to consider:
1. Reach Out for Support
When you feel the urge to cheat, Mayone advises confiding in someone you trust who is neutral, neither the person you want to cheat with nor your partner. Although it may be challenging due to feelings of shame and guilt, sharing these emotions can prevent impulsive actions.
Shame around attraction to others is common and does not necessarily indicate issues in the relationship. Sharing with someone can provide accountability and help you realize the potential consequences of cheating.
2. Understand Your Feelings
After opening up about the urge to cheat, take time to explore the root of these emotions. Mayone highlights the importance of questioning where these feelings originate and whether they point to unmet needs or dissatisfaction in life.
By gaining clarity on the source of these urges, individuals can take appropriate actions to address underlying issues and strengthen their primary relationships.
3. Implement Changes
Having understood the reasons behind the urge to cheat, it is essential to initiate constructive changes. Therapy can help individuals explore various factors contributing to these feelings and work towards creating a more fulfilling life.
For some, alternative relationship models like non-monogamy could be a viable option to meet unfulfilled needs without jeopardizing the primary relationship. Seeking professional guidance can aid in navigating such transitions smoothly.
By dismantling the stigma and shame associated with the urge to cheat, individuals can engage in open discussions with their partners and friends, fostering honesty, understanding, and ultimately, meeting emotional needs within relationships.